“Ah, marriage,” sighed the divorced lady.
Updating my LinkedIn account, I found a message from a man who recently published a book asking me if I’d do a review. I’m a fan of books, and offering my opinion. He wrote it for his grandson, which is adorable and something to cherish. I wish I had books from my grandparents.
Marital Advice to my Grandson, Joel started off as a blog, offering bits of advice. Encouraging words from fans prompted the book to be written. It’s a charming and funny read, albeit a bit exhausting—old fashion roles of men being clueless around the house, saying “yes, dear” to everything to keep the peace and women being obsessed with shopping and “training” their husbands run through the pages.
However, this is a grandpa giving his grandkid, who is now a young man, advice on how to not fuck up his marriage, based on the success of his own union; every time he refers to his wife as “Grandma,” my heart grew a little bit more. I can totally hear a parental figure telling these stories repeatedly, each getting funnier as the years roll by, with perhaps the younger generations lovingly rolling their eyes at the former roles men and women were once siloed into.
I found myself audibly groaning at parts (the “yes dear” thing gets old, husbands have the ability to cook “real meals,” not every woman loves shopping and the line about teaching a woman to swear nearly knocked me off my pilates ball), but the way the author writes is conversational and personal, and maybe meant to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek.
The author offers his views on picking out the perfect wedding date, to earning bragging rights, “the look”, paying attention to details, how to interpret body language, chivalry, owning a home, and “thirteen magical words” that help keep love alive, all wrapped up between covers of a book written humorously with love and hope.
The banana and the fart stories had me laughing, and the relating of actual life lessons from picking out the perfect card for special occasions to financial advice give the book a soul.
I related back to my own marriage and relationships since as I read Marital Advice to my Grandson, Joel. I recalled a former neighbor, who was on his second marriage at the time, stating he wasn’t a very good husband the first time around, and was working towards not repeating what he did wrong. It gave me perspective.
I wish Joel and Abby the best. I hope they embrace and learn from life’s lessons, and always remember why they got married.
From the author, Peter Davidson: When my grandson, Joel, got engaged I decided to jot down a few words of marital advice for him, based on my vast experience as a husband. Then I thought, why share this wisdom with only one person when I can share it with the whole world. So, I started a blog, listing new marital advice every week. As the popularity of the blog grew, people suggested that the material should be turned into a book and, well, here it is.
Publisher: Sweet Memories Publishing